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“…People with ADHD cope with this huge emotional elephant in two main ways, which are not mutually exclusive.
1. They become people pleasers. They scan every person they meet to figure out what that person admires and praises. Then, that’s the false self they present. Often this becomes such a dominating goal that they forget what they actually wanted from their own lives. They are too busy making sure other people aren’t displeased with them.
2. They stop trying. If there is the slightest possibility that a person might try something new and fail or fall short in front of anyone else, it’s just too painful and too risky to even consider. So, these people just don’t. these are the very bright, capable people who become the slackers of the world and do absolutely nothing with their lives because making any effort is so anxiety-provoking. They give up going on dates, applying for jobs, or speaking in meetings.”
(and the first has been tied to why women don’t get diagnosed properly bc we already expect women to behave that way)
One of the heartbreaking things is Haru started using “we” and “us”. Haru also knew the gist of what Yuki went through so it adds to his frustration. It’s most likely he implied the twisted mindset of the adults in their clan. The majority of the Sohmas have very cruel parents and almost all the cursed (especially the teens and kids Sohmas) have experienced something very traumatic coming from the adults. It’s all fucked up how much these kids went through when they did nothing wrong but were always the target of their parents. And that scene wherein not only Rin’s parents but also the doctor just walked away as if it’s nothing just shows how the adults of this cult clan turn a blind eye and act as if it’s something normal (other examples are the maids and the people who look down on the cat)